Wasting Time.

Lately, I’ve been noticing a lot of people I know waste time. This isn’t such a bad thing. We are living life and in most parts of it we are happy.

The question is, if you knew how much time you had left – Would you still be doing the same thing, or would you strive for something different?

Is what you are doing today, who you are doing it with, where you will be tomorrow - really making you happy?

These aren’t big questions to answer, these aren’t hard questions to answer, don’t over complicate the answer. Don’t say we all need to work, it is a means to an ends, we all need a partner to share life with, he isn’t the best – but he is the next best thing. Just answer the questions honestly and simply as possible.

Write the questions on a piece of paper, and answer them in a different colour.

Am I happy with my life?
Am I happy with whom I’m sharing it?
Am I happy with what my tomorrow holds?

If you answer No to any of the questions, then re-evaluate

What does/would make me happy with life?
Who does/would make me happy with life?
What do I want to do tomorrow, that would make me happy?

This doesn’t have to be about relationships, jobs. It can be about friends, hobbies, and dreams.
If the person who makes you happiest is your best mate Veronica, yet you are spending all your time with your boyfriend James, then perhaps you should think about that. If your passion is surfing but you live 4 hours away from the beach, so you never get there, why not consider moving closer to your passion.

I’m not suggesting you do any of things, only suggesting you at least consider your options, before time runs out.

Change. Don’t fear change.
Don’t just be – be something - be happy.

My Stars.

"Carpenters never have any shelves in their own homes. Bakers' families are forever running out of bread. When you do something all day long for other people, it is hard to then find enough time to do it for yourself. You are in the reassurance business. Wherever you go, whenever you open your mouth, you make other people feel better about themselves. You inspire trust. Yet secretly, inwardly, you now feel nervous. Don't be. Despite your misgivings, it is going to be a fine weekend." J.Cainer

Get Amongst It.

Don’t be afraid to grab hold of life and get amongst it.
Life is good, it is getting better and I can’t wait to get amongst it.

Demons.

What a ride of hell I have been on for the past six months. I think I’ve felt every emotion a person could imagine, seen sides of myself I never expected to see, learnt a whole lot more about myself and it is fantastic…

My demon was to complicate feelings, compound experiences or just make mountains out of molehills. It is all a matter of getting back to basics, simplifying, and streamlining.

Get rid of your demons. Go on you can do it.

Happy.

In today’s society it seems that people need to try to be happy. This amazes me. It seems people are always talking about how hard they have it, how hard things were, how hard things are going to be or how it is a struggle to say something positive.

Honestly people, the only person that can make you happy is you! The reason why you are unhappy today is because of you. Don't try and find your happiness in another person. Don't take from others, what you should be giving away freely. You need to find the good in you, find the warmth in you and then share it around - spread your soulshine.

Don’t settle for unhappy.
Make decisions, change your destination, accept what you can’t change and move mountains to change what you can.

And try smiling.......

What are you going to do now? Dance.

My sister, who is also my best friend, works in one of the most stressful professions around. She works as a Trauma nurse in Accident Emergency. She witnesses things that most people have nightmares about.

The hospital where she works covers some of the scummiest parts of Sydney. Drug addicts, domestic violence, murders…everything most of society attempts to ignore as they go about living. Yet she still has this uncanny ability to make you laugh, look at the positives in life and you just feel good knowing her.

Her motto for living:
Just keep moving. If you’re moving you know you aren’t dead (yet)!

Trust.

Once you break a persons trust, do you ever get it back? Once a person has broken your trust how many chances do you give them to earn it back?

Lately, I have been thinking about this question a lot. How many chances does a person get?

Take for example,
You offer a person you care for, love even the most unselfish gift imaginable. That person takes that gift and does nothing. They break the promise; they lie and then hurt you by pretending like the promise meant nothing anyway.

How many chances does this person deserve?
Just one more?

Choose Life!

I’m guessing most of us have seen Trainspotting and understand the concept of choosing life.

What is choosing life really all about, though?
Good question you ask, unfortunately I don’t have the answer. Understanding your life isn’t something anyone else can explain to you. To me, choosing life is about finding your passion, and living it. Taking a dream, and making it your reality.

And yet.
It is the small choices we make that can really dramatically change our lives. A moment of truth where you pick a distinct path to travel, and once you pick that path all other options are lost. Or are they?

Any choices you regret making, and in hindsight perhaps you would approach differently?

Well make a list.
Do the list, get back what you can, move on from what you can’t. Accept that not everything can be solved, and concentrate on the now.

One Regret.
After 28 years on this earth, I have one regret. It probably doesn't seem such a big regret, however, to me it is something that eats away at me everyday, makes me sleepless, forlorn, a little crazy and empty.

The regret.
Not being able to accept an apology from a dear friend.

Closing a chapter.
So I close this chapter of my life, and beginning living the next.

Thank you Derwent for your continually friendship and the many laughs we shared. I wish you every happiness and hope your destiny involves many adventures and exciting times. I will miss the chats.

The world is calling me. Time to see something new.
Stay well friends,
Pippy.