Telephone Etiquette
Don’t cough, don’t chew, and don’t talk to someone else. These are all things we all practice when engaging in a conversation on the telephone.

I would like to introduce a new one.
Don’t read and reply to email while speaking with someone on the phone, especially if you were the party who initiated the call.

There is nothing more humiliating or rude than being ignored by someone who phoned you.

Sugar coating, fibs and just plain lies…
How many people do you know tell lies, most of us do. A little lie here, a fib there. Does it really matter? In most cases, not really. Most of use a fib or tell a white lie to protect the feelings of friends, loved ones or colleagues, however, in telling lies we fabricate the truth and once started where do we stop.

What if you find yourself lying to the important people in your life? Does it become a problem then? I think it does. Small lies turn into big lies; big lies turn into huge lies and so an avalanche effect occurs until we find it difficult to determine fact from fiction. Okay, that is probably over-exaggeration.

I do believe though, if you begin telling lies to cover up something, you are only digging yourself a hole (which will only get deeper). Once caught out in a lie it is difficult to maintain the trust and respect you have in a relationship/friendship and when the lies get bigger (and more complex), the trust levels get lower and lower.

Once you lose trust, what do you have left? Not much.
You open a whole new door to jealously, suspicion and troubled waters lay ahead. Trust is a hard one to win back. If you have any respect for your friends, lovers and family then you need to consider the bigger picture. Perhaps you should tell John he has bad breath, perhaps you should tell Lisa her thighs do look fat in that skirt…or perhaps you shouldn’t say anything at all.

So before telling your loved one a lie. Think about the consequences and repercussions and think about why you are telling the lie in the first place. Maybe it is time to think about yourself, your friend, your lover. You owe yourself the truth, but more importantly your friend/lover/family deserves the truth.

The truth hurts, yet the truth shall set you free!

A lover becomes a friend

I guess many of us have stated at the end of a relationship, we can still be friends. How many of us actually mean this, and how many people successfully maintain a friendship.

I would say not many.
Most of us would have good intentions, yet a heart can only take so much. Do you really want to see your ex-lover kissing another? Could you really bear to see him smile at another, the way that he once smiled at you? Difficult yes.

There are some people that are worth the heart-twinge. You are connected to this person on a strange level, that most people don’t understand.

As long as it doesn’t become a bizarre act of stalking, then why not allow a lover to become a friend. Just don’t let yourself be hurt, in the process.

Good friends are hard to find.

Tunes and Cheese
Lately I have been sharing my house with many strange and wonderful people. The best part of sharing a house with new people is all the new things you learn.

I must say in the past few weeks, I have heard more music and sampled more cheese than ever before. Which is kind of strange, as I am a huge music and cheese fan – so to say that I have experienced even more is saying ‘something’.

I have come to the conclusion that some tunes and cheese are meant for each other. For example, Richard Ashcroft goes best with a Camembert and a bottle of Shiraz. Whereas, Chemical Brothers fits best with some vintage cheddar and a Cascade Stout…and Kylie still sounds crap.

What’s The Point, Anyway?

A point, people seem to always be searching for a point. The strangest thing is most people miss the point entirely.

You may have the greatest thing that will ever happen, or the greatest feeling you will ever feel – but you miss the point and search for something different.

By not searching for the reason behind this point of greatness, the overwhelming perfect feeling will mean nothing. You will never understand it was the greatest thing you ever had. You must prove this to yourself. Search on my friends.

A continual search for greatness is what provides each person with a good internal feeling, and I encourage everyone to continue searching. Live without fear, and you will succeed.

For me it is time to settle, stop searching and allow the greatness to find me. My heart no longer has the search left in it…so let the universe heal my being and bring me greatness. I have introduced many beginnings to many hearts, and I now need someone to show me a beginning that is meant for me.

I hope to find it in a smile.

Stating the obvious

There have not been many updates to the pnuts website for sometime. Things have been happening whether they be for the good or for the bad will remain to be seen. I still think the pair of nuts are still a pair of nuts.

It is amazing what some people can transfer to other people throughout their friendship or relationship. The thought of natural character transferance. So long as both parties are open to the acceptance then this can occur extremely easily. Everyone is put on the earth for a reason, this reason may just slip by some people, others may search their whole life to find it but never do. It is amazing when you meet people that actually know their purpose, people that love the job they do, people that love themselvse, their life and those around them. These people are the lucky ones. Does luck play a part, it sure as heck does. There is nothing like shaping ones own luck by the things you do, the actions you partake in. Do something good today, do something nice today and you will nortice that something nice will happen to you in return.

Do you know what your future holds? Is it more of the same dreery job. More of the pain you have been suffering. Or is it destined for great things. That great thing being the smile you get from people as you make them coffee in the morning or is it more of the same boring job as you throw the coffee cup to yet another customer.

There are times when we feel down and out and that the world is a bad place filled with torment and hassles. Can it get any better? You know it can and that it does. Think about the time when the sun is shining and the breeze is cool, the trees are green and you swing from the old tyre. Think about a room filled with Muppets who are so excited to be alive.

The universe is a beautiful place, you are a beautiful person. Give to the universe and the universe will give back to you.